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Cassandra Massey, JD, MA, AMFT #143043

Cassandra is a Marriage and Family Therapist with a passion for helping couples transform and heal their relationships. Her professional career began as a divorce lawyer, where she witnessed the devastating impact of unresolved conflicts. Determined to make a difference, she transitioned to helping couples learn how to identify and heal from destructive relational patterns and cultivate the skills to build strong, loving, and resilient relationships, so that they and their families can thrive.

Cassandra specializes in relationships. She has advanced training in several relational modalities, with her primary models being Relational Life Therapy, the Gottman Method Couples Therapy, Interpersonal Neurobiology, and attachment theory. By blending her unique expertise working with high conflict couples as a family mediator, her systemic experience and education as a marriage and family therapist, and her extensive training as a relationship coach, Cassandra has crafted a unique and impactful method for couples committed to improving their relationship and growing together.

Why This Matters

Growing up in a conflict-ridden home, Cassandra personally experienced the challenges of strained relationships. This background fueled her commitment to help couples break free from dysfunctional patterns, forge deep emotional connections, and achieve lasting intimacy. Happily married with two children, Cassandra has gone through her own transformative journey, which deepened her understanding and empathy for the couples she works with.

As a divorce lawyer, Cassandra saw firsthand the devastation unresolved relational conflicts can cause. Families torn apart, years of painful litigation, substantial financial loss, and profound emotional harm were all too common. Children living in high-conflict homes are at an increased risk of mental and physical health challenges, difficulty forming healthy relationships, and experiencing behavioral, social, and academic problems.

Cassandra’s mission is to help her clients prevent these outcomes by providing them with the tools and support they need to create a loving, stable environment for themselves, their families, and future generations.

The Work

Cassandra’s approach to marriage and relationship therapy is integrative, evidence-informed, and practical, helping couples make lasting changes in their relationship.

She can help you and your partner:

  • Break Free from Dysfunctional Patterns: Learn powerful relational skills to create a healthier relationship.
  • Develop Deep Emotional Connection: Build a deep and lasting emotional bond with your partner.
  • Learn Effective Conflict Resolution: Navigate conflicts calmly and constructively, turning disagreements into opportunities for growth.
  • Create Lasting Intimacy: Rediscover the joy of working together as a team and supporting each other’s dreams and aspirations.
  • Access Practical Tools: Learn specific strategies and exercises to enhance communication, empathy, and partnership.
  • Master Conflict Management Techniques: Learn practical methods to de-escalate conflicts and find mutually satisfying resolutions.
  • Take Insightful Action: Gain insights into your relationship dynamics and actionable steps to improve them.

Cassandra works best with couples who are results-driven, proactive, ready to do what it takes to create lasting changes, and devoted to building a thriving partnership.

Through this work, you and your partner will you learn powerful relational skills so you can create a healthier relationship, finally break free from dysfunctional patterns, assert your needs through emotional connection, listen to each other with openness, compassion, and empathy, feel fully heard, and, ultimately, get more of what you need and want in your relationship.

Take the First Step

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Cassandra Massey is a Registered Associate Marriage and Family Therapist, employed by Resilient Heart Therapy & supervised by Cheryl Tarnoksky. 

Certifications and Advanced Training in Relational Therapy:

    • Discernment Counseling with the Doherty Relationship Institute

    • Internal Family Systems, 6-Month Intimacy from the Inside Out Program

    • Relational Life Therapy, Certification Track (Relational Life Institute)

    • The Doherty Approach (TDA) Couple Therapy Training

    • EFT: Attachment Science in Practice 

    • Intensive Course in EFT – Attachment-Based Interventions for Couples in Crisis

    • Gottman Method Couples Therapy, Levels 1 and 2 Trainings (The Gottman Institute)

    • Gottman Method Couples Therapy, Treating Affairs and Trauma (The Gottman Institute)

    • Gottman Method Couples Therapy, Couples and Addiction Recovery (The Gottman Institute)
    • Memory Reconsolidation – Translating Neuroscience Into Art
    • The Neurobiology of Feeling Safe – Working with Boundaries Inside and Out
    • Neurobiology with Heart – Partnering with Your Client’s Brain to Make Sessions Easier and Deeper
    • The Mindsight Approach to Well-Being – A Comprehensive Course in Interpersonal Neurobiology
    • Secret Sexual Lives and Betrayal Trauma, Repairing the Most Damaging Wounds to Intimacy

Affiliations:

    • American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy (AAMFT)

    • California Association for Marriage and Family Therapy (CAMFT)

Education:

    • Master of Arts, Marriage and Family Therapy, Alliant International University, California School of Professional Psychology

    • Juris Doctor, UC College of the Law, San Francisco (formerly UC Hastings College of the Law)

    • Bachelor of Science, Psychology, University of California, San Diego

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